How to Increase Your Likeability

Make Crows Feet

Fake smiles utilize different muscles than genuine smiles. A real smile includes crow’s feet because it engages the eyes, cheeks and corners of the lips.

 

Use the right words

• Use simple words. As the Danish proverb goes, “Big words seldom accompany good deeds.”
• Use the active voice.  Consider the impact of these two phrases – Use the right words vs The right words will be used by you. The passive voice is ineffective.
• Keep it short. If people are interested, they will ask for more information.  If they are not interested, more information will not sway them.
• Words are the facial expression of your mind.

 

Dress for a tie

This is one time you want a tie, not a victory or a loss.  Overdressing says, “I’m richer, more powerful, and more important than you.” Underdressing says, “I don’t respect you.  I’ll dress any way I please.” Equal dressing says, “We’re peers.”

 

Pursue & project your passions

People who are passionate about what they do are more interesting, and interesting people are enchanting. Find shared passions.  The best negotiators spend 40% of their preparation time finding shared interest with the other party.

 

Perfect your handshake

• Make eye contact throughout
• Utter an appropriate verbal greeting
• Use a REAL smile
• Use a medium level of vigor
• Make sure your hand is cool, dry and smooth
• Hold the handshake for no longer than 2 or 3 seconds